Hanging by the thread

The most admired marriages do not exist just by chance; they flourish as a result of hard work to love and cherishing one another. On the other hand, the marriages that don’t last, experience fears of brutal violence, abuse, marital unfaithfulness and lack of respect between spouses.

Unfaithfulness is one of the major causes of broken marriages. It’s not a one time event but a continues craving that starts with a thought, then an action, which grows to a habit and eventually makes a character. The inner character of a person is more important than what is seen from the outside because what is inside will always manifest on the outside.

The story of Judah in Gen 38:1-26 tells how he compromised his integrity and fear for God by taking his son’s wife Tamar and sleeping with her. Though he was known to be a man who is godly and worth of respect, he could not overcome the lust of the fresh which led him to sin against God. There is no one who plans to fall into sin but hanging by the things that one knows for sure they will lead him/her to sin.

The early stages of marriage is always romantic, full of love and enjoyment, however this is not guaranteed to last a lifetime. During his preaching, Dr. Paul Wangai says “Romantic love doesn’t last; it lasts between 6months to 2 years”. ‘When this reality strikes, the emotions and principles must merge for marriage to be successful”.

Marriage is a covenant and an institution that must be cherished and respected. It’s a God idea and no one should joke around with it. Spouses must learn to respect one another avoiding arguments that ignite conflict. They must respect each other’s sexuality and commitment to fulfilling each other’s needs.

One must avoid tension building things such as imitations and abuses that are not godly and which can end up breaking marriage. We must live a life that is worthy of godly character in order to bring healing and joy into our marriages.

Thought for today:

Colossians 3:2

Set your minds and keep them set on what is above (the higher things), not on the things that are on the earth.-

The focus of our lives is very important.-

Our desire and longings must be for greater things.-

We pursue what our hearts long for.-

This calls for a decision - what will your focus be?

No Sin Goes unpunished

Following David’s sin was a cover up that led to the assassination of Uriah. God was not happy with David and he sent Nathan to rebuke David for his Sin. '"The LORD is slow to anger, abounding in love and forgiving sin and rebellion. Yet he does not leave the guilty unpunished; he punishes the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation." numbers 14:18.

David’s sin affected his own generation even though they had nothing to do with it. God will not let any sin go unpunished despite his attributes of love and slow to anger. When Nathan met David, he said to him,

"This is what the LORD says: 'Out of your own household I am going to bring calamity upon you. Before your very eyes I will take your wives and give them to one who is close to you, and he will lie with your wives in broad daylight. You did it in secret, but I will do this thing in broad daylight before all Israel.' Then David said to Nathan, "I have sinned against the LORD." Nathan replied, "The LORD has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. But because by doing this you have made the enemies of the LORD show utter contempt, the son born to you will die." After Nathan had gone home, the LORD struck the child that Uriah's wife had borne to David, and he became ill. 16 David pleaded with God for the child. He fasted and went into his house and spent the nights lying on the ground. The elders of his household stood beside him to get him up from the ground, but he refused, and he would not eat any food with them. On the seventh day the child died. 2 Sam 11-18.

Though David accepted his sin and repented before the Lord, the repercussion of his sin still remained. His own child is the one who had to pay the penalty of his sin. The same continued to his generation with Amnon David’s son raping his sister Tamar. As a result, Absalom struck dead his brother Amnon. 2 Sam 13:1-32.

Lamentation 5:7 Our fathers sinned and are no more, and we bear their punishment.

David’s story reveals to us that it’s the children who suffer whenever there is misunderstanding between parents, issues of divorce and unfaithfulness within marriage. Those who sin in darkness God will expose them in broad day light.

“If I sinned, you would be watching me and would not let my offense go unpunished. Job 10:14

Don’t Cross the Bridge it’s not worth it.

Our current sermon series concerns marriages and issues that are affecting our marriages today "Ya pretty little thing". We would like to share with you some of the highlights from the sermon series and we hope this will change your life as well as your families: The story in 2 Sam 11:1-26 resemble so many situations that have broken the codes of many families not only here in Kenya but all around the world. King David was anointed by God and was set apart for His work. These however didn’t make him superior or an exception from the temptations and the sinful desires that other people go through. He remained a Man like any other.

In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king's men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem. One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, "Isn't this Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite?" Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (She had purified herself from her uncleanness.) Then she went back home.The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, "I am pregnant."

V1-6 This passage describes David’s sexual sin with another woman who was already married. There are so many people; men and women who have fallen in the same trap of falling into sin outside their marriage. Research shows that most of the people obsessed with lust and pornography are the married men and women. The reason why so many people fall into sexual sin is because of crossing bridges intentionally. The following reasons contributed to David’s mess:

1. David was at the wrong place at the wrong time when he saw Uriah’s wife from the roof of his palace one evening instead of being at the battle field with the army. You want to work late hours to meet someone of the opposite sex.

2. David recognized that the Woman was beautiful.v2 What we allow our eyes to see can register images in our minds that can trigger us towards sinful actions.

3. David sent someone to find details about her. Looking for avenues to interact and gathering details about someone, calling them for interviews, giving people special assignments at odd hours, all these with motives to gain personal agendas

4. David sent a messenger to get her with intention of going to bed with her. David created a pre-determined encounter.

5. David sinned with her. As a result God judged him for what he did. As powerful man he took advantage of a weak woman.

6. David attempts to cover up his sin v7-26.



Uriah’s wife was driven by the passions of the King but the King himself was driven by his own lustful passion with him. The devil is determined to destroy our families. He is the enemy of the Children of the light and we must resist him at all cost.

Thought For today

Psalm 84:10

"Better is one day in Your courts than a thousand elsewhere; I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God than dwell in the tents of the wicked"

There is nothing as important as God's presence.
One moment in His presence can change our lives.
Sometimes we settle for so many other things.
With God's presence in our lives we can face anything.

PRAYER: Lord, more than anything else I long to enjoy more of Your presence in my life. Help me not to be distracted by other things.